Emotions can be elusive or overwhelming, so knowing what you feel is not always easy. When you understand your own thoughts, feelings and reactions, your relationships will improve, because understanding yourself makes it easier to communicate with others. Try to understand what you feel, how much it relates to the present moment, current events, your physical condition and your personal history. About what you feel and knowing more about it really makes you more compassionate, empathetic and cares about others. Awareness and understanding of your own feelings also means that you will be more intelligent about the feelings of others — that is, you will have knowledge of your feelings to help you when others' feelings are real or misleading.
If you are upset, confused or feeling emotionally overwhelmed, how to unravel your emotions can help you know what is going on inside you and get what you need and need. Help to do.
Notice your feelings. Are you worried, stressed, or worried about something? Are you calm Focus on your breathing and feel the sensations of the body that go along with it - the cold air coming in, the rhythm of your lungs expanding and deflection. If you pay attention to your breathing for a while, it helps you become more aware of your feelings. Are you reacting emotionally in your environment? If it is noisy, are you angry? If it is too quiet, are you uncomfortable? If you are warm and weak, do you feel at peace and relaxed? It is usually easier to feel emotions if you give them a little time to rise to the surface and if you are in a place where you will not be disturbed, but they are moving through you every moment of every day. When you take the time to notice them, you can often use that information to help them handle situations wisely.
Whether you realize it or not, there is a lot going on in your mind. At this time, you can debate or agree with what you are reading, or comment on whether you think it is helpful, or criticizing or worrying about whether You are doing it correctly. Songs, film or TV dialogue lyrics, or conversations from other times and places may be moving like a background soundtrack. Sit and listen for a few moments, and try to identify each idea. With a little practice, you will become aware of a "soundtrack" made of memories, thoughts, criticisms, background noise, TV, music, movies, news and other noises you have recorded in your lifetime.
If you practice this awareness of your inner thoughts and feelings, you will soon be able to find out what is happening to you, and, if you do this repeatedly for several days, So you will find that your self-knowledge increases rapidly. After a few weeks, you will become more aware of your body, your feelings and your thoughts. Once aware, you have a chance to manage and / or change them so that they can be more effective for you.
Being curious about your feelings and thoughts will lead you to understand and clarify things that, until now, have been mysterious. What are your depression, your anxiety, your impulsive behavior, your out of control feelings? Being interested in what you think and feel, as you are walking with your friend, spouse, or your children, will help you improve your relationship with yourself and others.
Your own feelings tell you what the feelings of others are. We can understand how someone feels without being told. What our other senses tell us about others (smiles, frowns, tension, "prickly vibes, relaxed breathing, and an indescribable kind of data that we call empathy) we know about our own feelings Are, what we conclude. Others are feeling. Without being told, we know when someone is angry, when someone has a strong positive or negative feeling towards us, and when we are in love. Understand. Gives us something to communicate.
Here's how to open communication with someone else:
- Don't talk, listen. Some people are less verbal than others, and when we get nervous, we talk and talk verbal. Resist the impulse to handle the conversation, and allow the other person time to talk.
- Don't be worried about a little silence: Give the other person a chance to fill it.
- When you talk, end your (brief) story with a question: "What do you think? Or was that so for you?"
- Treat the conversation like a tennis match: say something, then give the other person a chance to react ... take your time.
- No complaint counts your blessings, and says positive things. Everyone responds better to that.
Relationships: Does Every Relationship Have Four People?
A Very Different Dynamic
Everyone will have an attachment to the other and they will both have an attachment to the other people. Due to what is going on, a lot of their time may be spent in this area of their lives.
Conversely, both may not have a strong emotional connection with each other or with other people in their lives. Thus, while both of them will share their bodies with each other and other people, nothing else will be shared.
On the surface
However, although each of their relationships will not have much depth, they still require a lot of their time and energy. As a result of this, they can both reach a point where they are no longer interested in experiencing life in this way and want more depth.
What was initially started as fun can now be seen as tedious. After coming to this conclusion, they can assume that it would be better to just stick to each other or each other.
A Different Experience
When it comes to this type of relationship, one should only be for one other person. In these types of relationships, more of them may have to show up and this may involve more development than otherwise.
Undoubtedly, having an open relationship will bring challenges, but many of these challenges are likely to be different from each other which arise in a single relationship. One reason for this is that various internal wounds are likely to surface, as opposed to surface level relationships with more people through forming a deeper relationship with a person.
One way to see the difference would be to compare short distances with long distance running. Being able to run for shorter distances will provide a certain type of fitness, while being able to run for longer distances will take another time.
In both cases, there will be challenges, but the latter will take more strength and energy than the former. Ergo, going forward will require a deep digging and facing pain that they did not face.
One Half Truth
Now, while they will only be with one person, it does not mean that there will be only two of them in the relationship. The reason for this is that they are both going for an inner child.
One person's inner child, along with another person's inner child, is often influential in how they behave. Having this understanding will make the person more understanding and the same for his partner.
As the relationship progresses and develops, internal wounds are being triggered and it can cause both to behave that are out of character. During this time, their inner child will take over and their adult will go offline on their own.
If anyone has this understanding, it will be very easy for them to understand what is happening when it happens and should not take it personally. When someone takes an inner child, the same applies to their partner.
If no one has this understanding, they can capture what may happen when handling their partner's internal child, and this will make it difficult for them to separate their injured child from their adult self. Also, it will be more difficult for them to empathize with their partner and be kind.
In the end, it can take part of itself, so it will not happen, although their partner is deliberately preferring to behave in a way that is destructive or harmful, for example. It will be important for them to keep in mind that they themselves will be moments like this and are likely to appreciate being their partner, which is going on.
Knowing that they have an inner child who will occasionally take a part; The second part will be for them to do. Being aware of what is going on and taking steps to fix what has been triggered will allow them to resolve what is happening and for their relationship to progress.
If one, or their partner, does not have awareness or take steps to resolve what has been triggered, it is going to be very difficult for the relationship to progress. Over time, it can cause their partner or them, emotionally or physically, to leave the relationship.
If someone can relate to it and they need additional help, they may need to reach out for outside help. This is something that can be provided with the help of a physician or therapist.